It’s All About the Woman Who Wears It…
With her quick wit, charm, and genuine compassion, Judge
Perez has not only redefined the role of intimidating TV court judge, but also
gained the trust and respect from a new generation of young women. In It's
All About the Woman Who Wears It, Judge Perez lends the same candid voice,
humor, and understanding that she applies in Cristina's Court to ten impactful
laws. Together, these laws can teach women that the real essence of being sexy
comes from a strong sense of identity. They address the problems women commonly
face that prevent them from realizing their full potential for happiness.
Sharing personal experiences that have made her the confident woman she is
today as well as the many real-life lessons imparted from her cases, Judge
Cristina's words will resound among this new generation of women who take a
no-nonsense approach to life and, above all else, want to be true to
“Cristina's no-nonsense candor will be familiar to fans of
TV's Cristina's Court, and inviting to anyone who resents the coddling
tone of many self-helps, though her sharp and humorous insights don't have the
self-righteous aggression (or self-loathing undercurrents) of Laura
Schlessinger's similarly-themed Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their
Q & A with Cristina Perez about her new book: “It’s
All About the Woman Who Wears It: 10 Laws for being Smart, Successful and Sexy
Q: What types of topics does your new book cover Cristina?
A: My book is really a heart to heart conversation where I reveal the 10
universal issues that we women notoriously struggle with and some of the ways
we can wear the “smart, successful, sexy” identity we all deserve. Some of the
things I talk about are: finding strength in yourself, celebrating being a
woman without guilt or fear, taking risks and learning when to say “no,”
avoiding the seven deadly sins of marriage, mastering the balancing act of a
woman’s life, reinventing yourself, and learning to live with our decisions.
I hope this book will guide women to reach their full potential in order to
face and overcome life’s challenges head-on and become the best version of
their smart, successful and sexy selves!
“The advice she gives is very thorough and seems to be
directed at a broader audience of women. I also love that she tells new personal
stories about her life… and her opinion on various cases from her TV show.”
Q: What are your favorite parts of the book?
A: First of all, I think there is something for each individual woman in
this book. That being said, I would say “The Balancing Act” chapter is key and also
something relatable to most women, as well as a big source of stress for them.
As women, we are being asked to juggle more roles than ever – especially in
this current climate of financial stress. Women need to know that they are not
alone and there are ways of managing this crazy life that we’ve all taken on. I
want them to know that I “feel their pain” and sometimes it’s just a matter of
adjusting their perspective.
The book’s overall message of finding strength in your identity is an important
one. There are many women who often do not see their self-worth and value in
the scheme of things. It is so easy for these women to let others define them.
I really hope that these women in particular can find a message of hope in this
book, even if my words are just stepping stones to see that they are
individuals with infinite possibilities in their life.
There is also some good advice for young women planning to get married, engaged
and for newlyweds in the book’s dating and marriage chapters that I wish someone
had given me when I was at that point in my life. A friend of mine actually
became engaged and married while I was writing this book and talking with her
about it. She told me how helpful the advice was personally for her.
Q: What compelled you to write this book?
A: I see so many women constantly struggling with the same issues in life
and stepping on their potential in life, and never seeing it. I also realize
that as a woman I’m in the same boat – I catch myself doing the same things! I
wanted to write a book to shine a light on these behaviors, give them a name,
let women know that I’m “guilty” too and then share some of the ways I have
managed these issues in my own life. With all the roles we as women take on
these days, from wife and mom to business woman, it seems like women could use
a book like this more than ever to help put things in perspective and make it
through the storm.
“Cristina Perez tells
it like it is in this very candid and heartfelt book. She shows women that
being sexy has everything do with your self-image and the way you respect
yourself. She also shows you how to play in a "man's world" while
still enjoying the beauty and fun of femininity and being a woman.”
Q: Did anything surprise you or did anything surprising happen, during the
course of writing the book?
A: Yes. Working on instinct, I started talking about some of the issues
covered in the book with some women – some I knew and some I did not. Initially
I was just curious about how other women struggle with issues like marriage,
work, self-image, etc. What surprised me was the quality of the responses. They
had depth, they were candid, funny and smart – everything I talk about in this
book as part of a strong woman’s identity! In a sense, talking to all these
women about the book validated my entire reason for writing it. I learned that
women are strong, sexy and smart, sometimes without even realizing it. It
really energized the writing process and made me want to deliver something
special for these women and all the other readers. Their answers became the “in
her own words” sections at the end of each chapter. That was very surprising
and definitely exciting!
Q: What advice would you give to aspiring writers?
A: Writing is so many things. It can be a task, a profession, a hobby, a
passion, a life mission, a form of self expression, or all of the above. No
matter what it is to you, start by figuring out what it is in your heart that
you want to share with others. Next, figure out how you want to share your
message or story.
I personally think of writing as a conversation, whether it is with a trusted
friend, family member, or a large group of people. My style happens to be
pretty informal, but with a structure that helps the reader organize what I am
telling them. Each writer needs to determine the style of communicating their
story that comes naturally to them. Sometimes this reflects the way they
communicate in real life (like my style) and sometimes it’s different. Writing
involves asking a lot of questions about yourself, your reader and what you
hope to achieve. It is a journey – fun, exhausting, energizing, frustrating,
revealing, and different for each writer.
Chapter 1: Find Strength in Yourself
Chapter 4: Date Wisely
“This book gets women to start acting realistically and
positively toward men, relationships, and careers. If there is great example of
a genuinely strong and sexy woman out there, it is indeed Cristina herself. A
valuable read from a very introspective and caring author and person.”